Short Stories

#Mr. Mind

You know that your mind is the game changer, it can toggle you and manipulate you in every aspect. Do you recognise that suddenly you fell ill just by thinking of it. Did you also noticed seeing someone puking you also start feeling the same it's all about your mind, it says how strong or how weak is your mind. Your mind can put you down or it can achieve you the unexpected. Think any one incident from each your life each and everyone will find one instance from their past when he/she achieved the unexpected. Let's share one of my incident from where I started realising that your mind is your boss who controls your brain. I still remember when I was in college completing my last 5th sem exam which was turbo machines, believe it or not that full semester I had no idea what I was dealing with till the last night , one of the toughest paper which I faced in my life. Literally after exam I sat in my bed with the question paper and started counting the marks till I was not convinced that will manage to get passing marks I repeatedly counted almost for 30-45 mins and I started doing the same practice every day till my results are out. It's my mind then which was continuously telling me that I will get the passing marks though I have answered only 26 and our passing marks was 35 so still I am 9 short but I had a believe and my mind continuously telling me that I will be through. My holidays was gone for a toss every day and every minute I was not able to stop thinking about that, my appetite was gone and guess what my parents started thinking that someone ditched me. My previous holidays was so excited and full of joy but that holiday was full of mystery and I was not able to concentrate my holidays as my mind continuously beating me that you will be through but at the same time I was wondering how it can be possible as I am 9 short from my milestone. The day when the results are out all my friends was dipped into sorrow as they could not hit the milestone but guess what I was through that was unbelievable really unbelievable, that subject was turned to be a mass back subject that sem and only a handful was able to through and I was among them. That day I realised the power of mind which really can change the game and make a person feel like a special one . I felt so unrealistic that day as if I was dreaming because I could not believe myself that it was happening. Things so changed rapidly that day as everyone started treating me as a special gifted student and it also changed my mind, suddenly I felt more energetic mentally and honestly if anything happens beyond our expectation at first it takes time to digest and in my case again I sat in my bed and again started calculating my paper that how I managed to get the passing marks. Your mind is your best friend as it remains with you and works for you even when the rest of the world goes against you. Mind tells you exactly what you are and what you should deserve. It has a power which cannot be seen ,cannot be measured but we can only feel it's presence. Similarly our mind can become our biggest enemy, we will discuss each point regarding our mind and how it works in different situations in this book which will include few of my examples taken from my life. 1..... Mind help us to take decision The first thing which came to my mind is the above point. People may not understand in the first go about the point might be because we did not thought that whatever decisions which we take in our life comes from our mind. As I quoted before that mind is our best friend which always tries to take decisions for us not against us . Now decisions goes against us because the confusion which started creating in our brain which makes us to change the decision and then when things goes wrong. Remember those college days when we students do not think of preparing our lessons till the last day of our semester and suddenly last night before exam we all try to become serious and try to cover the syllabus in one single night at that time we start selecting topics,among all important topics we try to select the most important topic which we think will definitely come ,here where our mind helps us in taking the decision. Even more better if we recall those moments when we were giving our semester's exam and we start deciding which questions first we are going to answer is another critical decision. Our mind has a very unique character it gives us many choices and helps us to select the best one among the rest. A question might comes to your mind which is very common that why sometimes those decisions goes wrong and we fall into a loop hole where we do not find any way to get rid of that situation, now my question to all who are reading this book is first ... did you ever came across to this scenario if no you are a lucky champ but if yes then did you try to figure out why it happened, did you ever tried to question your self that what went wrong that it leads to this situation. If you ask me I will tell that it might be because confusion which makes your mind blackout and makes your nerve numb which in results you are not able to think or you are not able to take any decision at that time. Too much confusion which creates in your mind makes your mind in deep trouble as it starts doubting it's own capability and tries to change the decision. Here where things go wrong as changing decision and that also not once or twice many times in a short time makes your mind a total lose. Now the above scenario does not contain any financial involvement. The actual game starts when it involves money in it for example: investment in share market , investment in a mutual fund etc..... I have quoted above examples because I experienced it both, now in case of share market investment it requires a strong mind along with believe and patience as anytime the market can go up similarly it can go down so you have to exclude the confusion character which may arise in your brain after investing as it may ask your self many questions , but you along your mind should stay strong and rigid with your decision.... Similarly the same behaviour you have to follow in the second case , here I have only mentioned 2 cases but there are multiple cases in your life which requires strong mind to take correct decision because it involves money and I do not have say it separately that in any case where money is involved how much you have to be serious. In a cricket match what a captain thinks when the situation becomes critical because a captain feels his responsibility as one wrong decision can take the game away from them and all the hard work will go in vain. Choosing the right bowler at the right time if you are on the bowling side or choosing the right shot at right time is a skill which a captain should have. Taking right decision at right time and that also in a stipulated time is a power which a person acquire through experience. Decision taking is a unique capability which is not every one's cup of tea as it involves many calculation many assumptions. A freakle mind will loose the game for you and there will be nothing that you can do to make it correct once you have taken a wrong decision so before we take any decision we should think about it properly, more importantly we have to believe yourself and your mind because they will never betray you they will always show you the right path. 2..... Mind act as a saviour Readers may start thinking that how come it can act as a saviour but after reading this section you will also start thinking in my way. It is quite related to the previous section where we spoke that how our mind acts as a decision taker but some times decision which involves some one's life becomes very critical for eg : a bomb squad person feels confused as he/ she have to take a major decision within a stipulated time failing to that he/she can loose life, at that every thing is in your hand but still nothing that you can do as you don't know which wire to cut. In those scenario prediction does not works as you have got only 1 chance and if you miss you will not get another chance to rectify it at that time you start feeling nervous your legs starts shivering your will feel your hand in a numb state along with your brain which is on the verge to loose hope this same thing happens in our daily life when we get exhausted after trying to achieve success but repeatedly we taste failure.... at that moment suddenly an extra force gets added in our body which encourages you which motivates you and you again start working or preparing to achieve it till the time you taste success. This added energy comes from your mind and it acts as a saviour. I am giving you a very simple example which happened in my life: There was a friend of mine who works with me in a private firm suddenly he decided to leave that company and want to join another company may be because of good package, his was lucky enough as he was selected in a well reputed company with a higher package hence he gave his resignation and started serving his notice period which was of 30 days. He celebrated his success with his colleagues with his family as everyone was happy as he succeeded and achieved a milestone but he did not know what waiting for him in next few days. When he cracked the interview he was told that he is going to receive the offer letter within 1 week which now turned to 3 weeks , now he is left with only 1 week and this was the time where your mind start creating confusion and kills your self confidence as everyone started asking about the offer letter and in return he had nothing to say except giving a fake smile. It is impossible for a self respect employee to revoke his resignation because there is no proper valid reason that he can give and if he had to say the truth then his self respect will go for a toss. At that time he played a smart move as he was not getting a valid response from the future company he did not lost his hope , he moved forward and gave another interview and guess what happened he got that job along with the offer as he was left with only 2 days after that his 30 days notice period completes. But honestly it is not so easy as it looks like , I am sure most of the readers reading this book have came across to the interview session and who knows better than us about the atmosphere in that situation. My friend shared his interview day with me , for him it was almost a do or die situation because if he do not cracked that interview then from the very next day it would be difficult for him to stay inside costly place like Gurgaon without a job. He told me that his full body was shivering before each round just thinking that what will happen if he did not clear the next round. Before the main round which was the ops round he almost lost hope because of fear , at that time so many things was dancing on his head and he was not able to think that what will happen after this round whether the day will go against him or for him, while he was thinking he suddenly woke up went to washroom, washed his face and started pinching himself and at that time all of a sudden a pseudo force added to his body and he suddenly started believing that he can do it, yes he can do it. This believe worked as a savior for him and after 25 mins of ops round he came out from the room with joy and with tears.... Same in any sports you will find a match drastically turns where the loosing team starts winning. Specifically in a cricket match and in a football match things turns out drastically. This is what i called as GAME OF MINDS... which we will discuss in the next section. 3........... Game of Mind's In this section we will talk about how mind changes a game. Do you ever thought that the atmosphere totally changes based on venue. The cheering from home side makes the opponent team in deep mental depression which blocks their different ways of thinking. If you have the capability to read other's mind then you the champion this is why game changes and a losing team suddenly starts winning. Same in a corporate world when you at the verge of losing a deal suddenly turns round and goes for you and you got an additional power to understand their requirements by reading their mind which in turn helps you to crack the deal. Whenever you feel that things are going out from your hand take a short break at that very moment, it will help you to buy some time from them and you can ask your mind to get a solution may be new ideas may emerge in your head and it can attract the client or even better if the client starts thinking about your ideas in depth and changes his/ her mind. Sometimes it happens that if you take a decision then and there may not be right because it is impossible to thing the x,y,z parameters involved so taking a break may change things, you have often have seen that in a cricket match things totally changes after drinks break. This happens may be because you bought some time and it helps your mind to heal from the damage and came up with new ideas. At any time your mind can change and you are responsible how you want to play your mind. You can control your mind but whether you want to use it for you or against you is totally upto you. People often they that after drinking he lost his mind and started behaving rude , I will say it was his choice that's why he behaved rude, he chose that environment also he convinced his mind to do so , also I have seen people who remains quite and calm even after consuming a full bottle, though consumption of alcohol is a very bad habbit and people should be away from all these addiction. My only Moto is that you chose to be in that state it's your choice and you convince your mind to behave in an unusual way, it's not the drink which is responsible it's we who are responsible. Mind game is a skill which a person should adopt as it helps to read and understand another person's mind and in turn it helps to take a critical decision. A normal person with a normal brain do not have the capability to understand how to read mind but if someone adopts the same then a new leader or captain emerges. That's how a captain or a leader is chosen because they have this unique capability to read minds and that how they crack deals or win matches. Now the question comes how people can read minds, we are not astrologers we are simple normal human beings then how come we acquire this character. If you ask me I will say it's the trust that you should have with your mind, you have to listen and feel what your mind wants to say. As I told previously the moment you feel confused take a short break and try to listen what your mind wants to say try to feel the environment, keep calm and have trust. It's not that you will be 100 percent successful but yes you will be successful enough to retain your current position and ofcourse the more you will be experienced the more you will increase your success rate. 4..... Manipulation & Reading Power Our mind has a unique power to manipulate others. It has the capability to convince other minds and that's what a sales man do to us , they are also normal human beings but they have the power to play with the words and that is why they play with our minds and sell their products. Now the question comes how they do that?? There are two of minds as far I know one is a strong mind which do not easily agrees any idea another is a weak mind which easily agrees and comes into an agreement. Now it is very easy to grab a weak mind as it gets easily convinced but a strong mind takes long time to get convinced. Our mind becomes biased and gets convinced no Matter how strong it is if someone manipulate you a sales man job is to manipulate you by showing so many benefits of that product that they want to sell plus they also have a quality which helps them to grabs customer who are not convinced in the first go is following up with the customer for the next few days. Now it's there mind which read another person's mind and helps them to partially analyse that this person needs more follow up in order to get convinced, similarly they also understand that which customer will be easy to capture and which customer will be tough to capture. They usually do not waste much of their time to those customers whom they see are not interested at all, they some how understand through their skills and experience. But ones they analyse a customer and came to a conclusion that this customer can be a getable person then they started dancing over our mind and starts manipulation until and unless the customer gets convinced. It is there choice of words which they select and deliver to our minds because our mind captures words and any pleasant or awkward moments that why they always maintain a hygiene with the customers because they know how to make an impression in front of the client. This same thing a marketing and strategy person follows, their work is totally different from a sales man because they are no meeting customers physically but they are meeting them mentally... How?? by attracting customers to buy their products.. they globally analyse that what types of advertising campaign now customer will take globally because products will remain same might be some modifications will be there but the base will be same then how to grab ones attention in that product, we will see that emotional ads are made now a days very often it is done may be because they researched on this and found this category as the most suitable one where they can leave an impression. Some of them comes ups with a unique idea which ones get released automatically gets worldwide recognition, I believe you all will remember that beautiful ad of ASIAN PAINTS "kya Sunil Babu nagi gaadi naya ghaar aur nayi biwi .... Badiya hain" and also the most popular tune of AR Rahman in his Airtel ad these are the few ads which got self recognised and still our minds did not forget them, you know it also hiked the reputation of the brand, I still remember when the Airtel tune released all of a sudden there was a huge craze among people to get Airtel Connection and ofcourse we do not have to say that there connection has a reputation that's why still we have trust, in the same way do you remember the Hutch Dog. I was small at that time but I know that how people was eager to get that connection and that dog after the release of that ad. My main Moto is make people understand that how the marketing people were successful to read our minds and they understood that what we require at that time. They were successful to show there brand benefits in a different way and in return they got our attention which there achievement and they deserve it. In a cricket match the same manipulation of mind happens that's why suddenly a bowler changes his side and starts bowling from the other side. It's a captain who tries to read the mind of the opponent side, that why they change bowling or style of batting. Suddenly we can see a player who comes for bowling at a crucial stage but he is not a regular bowler may be he is not at all a bowler but still the captain gave him a chance to bowl, this because the batsman mind did not thought of this situation and it left the mind unprepared because the batsman might have thought some experienced bowler will come and bowl so his mind was totally prepare for that but suddenly this type of change makes their mind little unprepared. We often see that first over has been given to a spinner to start the innings or a bowler who usually comes at 7th or 8th down for batting but suddenly changed his position and appeared as an opener. We really appreciate this type of experimental decision that usually the master minds love to take as their mind is so strong that they analyse what other's are thinking and what we want as it is a very risky job as they are investing a huge amount on basis of our need according to th returnem because there mind are saying to do so, if they are wrong then they are gone as it involves a huge amount of money, but if they are right then they becomes the new leaders of the industry and every other companies will be in search of these talented mind readers. 5. Mind do not accept sudden change or shock.. This section is a very important one as it tells us how you should be cautious with your mind when it encounters sudden change. We often see that a climatic change cause effect to our health, similarly not only climatic change any change which gets differed from your daily schedule takes an immediate effect to our health it may be a food habit that you suddenly changed it can effect your stomach or you went to a new place and drank local water not Bisleri or mineral water then next day you will easily the repucurtion that will occur. Same way our mind also behave as it maintain a daily schedule and a sudden change might not be acceptable to our mind. Kindly remember a day where your friend asked to join a late night party suddenly with him and more importantly when you know that next day is not a holiday then I am sure that your mind will stop for a while and it also start thinking and till the time our mind declares that it is totally ok we keep the decision on half and try to buy some time, now if the person wants an immediate response then I am sure automatically the answer which will come from my mouth atleast will be a big no and I am sure you all will agree with my decision. Our mind believes us and they take things granted that we will not change our daily schedule once we started continuing it so they are not prepared with that now when a sudden change occurs and that too something critical it left our mind in numb state. The same thing a team faces when they have to chase more than 350 runs in 45 overs and 2 of their best batsman gone out. This stage the mental condition of the team goes in a numb state as it is a shock for them and their mind was not prepared for this disaster , they might prepared themselves in a different way and that's how their mind was also set in that manner but now how to deal with this situation they are not prepared for it and there mind went to a blackout stage. People who overcome this situation is a champion, they are actual heroes, they do not panick and make things worse in return they try to fix that thing , it might be possible that there mind also went to a numb state but for a while but they have the capability to rebuild their state and start thinking how to rebuild it , a big example is the NATWEST series which we won against England, that was almost like a world cup final that we won that day, seriously chasing 326 runs in those days was a big deal and when India was down by 4 wickets under 150 and the milestone is 326 then it's very hard to believe that India is going to win that match , I am sure many of us switched off their TV's or changed the channel as our mind was not in a stable state to watch till the end and some of us still watching the same match because their mind was still in shock that what just happened as 2 big wickets quickly fall down and all our hopes got killed when the master blaster was bowled. Most of our mind is not acquainted with sudden shock it nurtures the balance of our body. In that match we have seen how a strong mind can rebuild a broken boat and can make it sail. From that match we start believing that yes our team is capable to snatch game from opponents nest, this is what i felt and i believe people belongs from my generation will feel the same which i felt that day. The same thing happened in 2011 world cup final match when sehwag and Sachin was out but at that time I believe no one switched off their TV's or even moved out from their place as we now have a history where we came through a similar scenario and was successful and that day we all are praying to repeat the same day in a different way after that we all know what happened our mastermind Mr.Dhoni taken a very critical but strong decision to move himself up in the lineup, which clearly shows his strong mind and the capability to rebuild the broken state and make it stable .... may be at that time for a while his mind was also went to a confusing state .... but he quickly revived himself up along with his mind and took a very interesting decision which made him the MOM. Now let's focus on corporate world how it effects in this domain. How will you behave when the forecasting went wrong totally which you portrait in your business meeting and in return a huge loss which your company have to bear or let's say how will you behave when you are 110% sure that you cracked a deal but suddenly unexpectedly some one else grabbed the same deal. Wont you feel lost ?? Won't you feel in a state where you will feel every thing unstable ?? In our life many such stage will appear where you will feel that a sudden change or shock made your mind unstable but it's us who have to be strong, it's our mind which need some time to deal with this change, my suggestion is give your mind some time as it is needed then things will be sorted out automatically. Do not think that you have lost it... as we still have a single percent chance to rebuild at any critical state. You know our mind declares that we have lost but actually still we haven't lost. I will share an incident which happened when I was giving my last 5th sem paper Turbo Machines. This subject was termed as the mass bunk paper of 5th Sem Mechanical Department. Students at the very beginning lost hope in this subject and declared it a tough subject though they did not go through even a single page it also includes me, I also declared it as a tough paper and started thinking ways how to score the minimum passing mark and these all I was starting doing without reading a single page. Students started to feel that they are going to fail these subject before their exam. You know what happened at the day of that exam, we starred at each other for almost 20 mins intially then I don't know about other's but I was finding ways how to score atleast the minimum passing marks. Now the day when the results are out that paper was successful to retain its mass back title as because only 16% students were able to score the passing marks. I am not going to any individual score as my moto is to make people understand that it was us who were responsible for that mass back title,we could easily try and rebuild the state instead of that we follow the same flow and declared us as loosers even before the game started and all our mind went in numb state and stopped working. Those who strongly came up and successful to rebuild their broken state are the elite 16% who were able to score beyond the passing marks. 6...... Our mind works as a medicine for us. I have included this section because is it almost related to the previous section. In the previous section I have mentioned that people in their mind first loose the game before even the game starts also I have quoted few examples for the same. In this section similarly I will provide another example which is related to the incident which I have mentioned earlier. At the beginning I have mentioned that a person feel sick just seeing other's . Similarly some one starts puking just seeing other's, these happens because their mind is not strong. We have a bad thinking that once a patient goes in ventilation we consider it as a gone stage but still the patient is alive though might be the condition is not good but still it's alive but we declare that the patient's recovery rate is almost zero once moved in Ventilation. You know that a person can be treated well if he/she is physically ill but it is impossible to treat a person if he/she is mentally ill. A person who is mentally retarded dies thousand times before the actual demise. If you are mentally strong then there is a less chance to make you grounded because of medical condition. We will often see that people lives freely without any fear if he/she do not have any knowledge what's happening inside his/her health. But once the disease is declared then that same person feels less energetic and gets grounded. Medicine is just a mere requirement for a person who has a strong mind but it becomes an addiction for a weak mind. For them they cannot feel relax and satisfied until and unless they do not intake their regular medicine even there is no requirement for taking that medicine but still they will take to satisfy their mind and feel refreshed. Some people have a tendency of body ache and every day they feel relaxed until and unless someone gives a good massage. Though which is not required but that's how your mind is set up, your mind send signal to your brain and tell to do so that's why it becomes almost mandatory to adhere the same schedule without fail. People do not think that it is making them dependent and whole they have to continue the same schedule to remain fit but to make their present perfect they ruin their future as our resistance power decrease as we grow old and more we grow old we became more dependent to medicines. So my opinion in this case is simple try to make you mind strong and do all the necessary activities to make it more strong day by day but the treatment should be natural, do not take help of any medicines again to make your mind strong. I have seen people also take medicine for maintaining their body, I don't know whether it is correct or not to do so but I like the natural therapy which might take some time to get the ultimate result but I am sure if you follow natural course then it will make you strong and stronger day by day and you will feel it from your depth, do not go for instant result which may land you in a big trouble in future as any instant result involves auxiliary products to support it. Like people often take digestive tablets right after a meal which is at all not a correct approach, instead of that you should train your mind and make it strong enough so that it can initiative to heal it naturally. Taking additional help through medicine thinking that it would help you in a short run is actually effecting an individual in a long run. Another very important parameter which I want to discuss in this section is tension, it is another parameter which makes a person's mind weak rather very weak and can cause a fatal perimeter una long run, it ruins an individual's life, it takes away happiness and brings pain. You know this perimeter along can be a source of multiple issue which can make a person fall ill rather critically ill . It falls an impression to our face and every one can understand that you are in a tense phase. Heart disease is the main cause which comes from this tension. Anxiety, depression all this issues comes from a single source that is tension. People loose their early age and acts an old man because of this, honestly tension is just like an appendix in our body which do not do any work nor do not adds any positive input to our body rather it brings pain. The best thing is to remove this additional part out from our body, similarly it better to remove tension out from our body as it do not brings any positive input to our mind rather it blocks our mind and some times it can lead to total black out and again people start taking medicine to get rid of these but in return it do not gets eliminate as it becomes a schedule to our mind and the dosage of medicine gets increase day by day, a side effect of tension leads to sleeping problem as people cannot sleep properly as there mind continuously keeps them busy in an unnecessary thinking parameter and in return again people start taking sleeping pills to get rid of this. We all know know that all these medicines have a very bad side-effect but still to save our present we happily kill our future permanently. People do not understand that tension do not bring any relief nor it gives you any solution, it's good to think but over thinking can turn the perimeter to a different tangent. Logical and practical thinking brings joy , relief and also it gives solution, each individual should start adopt the above habbit do not over think and burden your mind so that it gets blocked and do not allow a single flow of air to pass just like a traffic jam which blocks a road and sometimes it blocks in such a way that there remains no place for a person even to walk. People should understand that tension is a virus which effects the performance of our mind if it enters in our body so do not entertain to download contents from any unauthorised source, believe and download only those contents that you see and that you hear apart from that believe or download contents from a trusted source with whom you have full confidence, anything apart from these throw it in the junk folder and permanently delete it from that bin. 7... Always think straight and simple This section which I will discuss is another important parameter. Our mind adopt those skills which we taught them like when we are a child then we learn things and adopt the same when we grow up, similarly our mind learn things from our surroundings and what it goes through . That's why some people think in a complex manner and some think in a straight way. Actually life is not so complicated but it's us which make things complicated. Best example is when we try to solve aptitude. Now the first thing which we should keep in mind while solving a sum is that we should think straight. But students do not understand because it causes a confusion to our mind based on the environment. We think correctly in the first go but then the confusion gets created in our mind that in a competitive exam how is it possible that they can give so easy sum which can be solved so easily, then we doubt ourself and we start thinking in a complex way and lands up selecting the wrong answer. Our thinking process changes according to situation. In a critical environment we cannot even think to start with a simple or basic step. In a corporate office whenever there is any escalation then always try to find the root cause behind it or which is also termed as RCA (Root Cause Analysis) where they start from the basic step and then proceed further. They always follow a process and proceed step by step. Their mind are well tuned and it can understand where exactly they can find the problem and hence they goes in that route. Similarly a good officer always starts an investigation from the very basic step because they know thinking in a complicated way will completely deviate the actual route from the solution. Always remember life is just like a boat , enjoy its ride do not create unnecessary waves which makes the ride uncomfortable. Our mind floats better when we do not create any extra burden in it , the moment we create extra burden our mind stops thinking, even we forgot our basics. Readers will be more clear with this below explanation: One fine day I was trying to reach a person through phone but every time when I was trying to call after first ring it getting disconnected. Actually the person who I was trying to call was one of my ex-colleague who took 1500 rs from me , but at the time of taking money he told that he will give it back after receiving his salary but even after 2 weeks post salary he did not gave back that amount, now when I am trying to reach him he is not receiving the call , at that time so many things was dancing in my mind that I totally forgot a simple thing which I should have taken at that time though I did it but it took a long time for me to figure out that step which was just dialing the same number through a different phone. If I could have taken this step simple step in the first go then I could have resolved the issue much earlier. But my thought process was complicated that's why this simple idea came to my mind after a long time. Similarly another instance I want to discuss in this section was misunderstanding and miscommunication. Readers will be in doubt that how come the above two points relates with mind. Let me explain in this earth maximum problem occurs due to miscommunication and misunderstanding. People often hear something from someone and acts accordingly , their mind do not beat them because their mind is tuned in that manner they lost the skill to think in a simple way, in the first go only they could have solve the situation just by communicating with the right person but instead of that they think it in a complicated way and make things worse. As stated earlier that we think that life is complicated and execution of anything in our life cannot be done easily. Now let's take an instance which we often experience in our daily life , suppose yesterday you had an argument with a person may be he is your colleague or friend now some one came today and told you that the same person told something against you and I am sure without consulting most people will believe because their mind will not allow them to think simple. You will start thinking of the previous incident and then you will start recalling any bitter experience that you had with that person before. The best part that your mind plays out here that instead of taking the shortest route your mind tells you to take the longest route and you are totally responsible for this state , as because you made your mind so confused by continuously giving confusing input that you mind stops thinking in a different way, your mind lost the capability to think normal , your mind is fulfilled with confusion and there is not a single place that it can think in a normal way. If you think positive then the result will also be positive because there is a strong power which you call rather your mind calls a strong power which helps you to bring out the perfect result. Whereas if you think negative then you are inviting negative energy towards you and with this mind set anyone can even loose a winning game. 8. Your best friend criteria.. This is an interesting topic and would love to discuss about the same. Do you ever thought that how someone becomes your friend and how someone becomes your best friend. Best friend do not depends on age, sex, time. It can happen anytime and anywhere. It may happen at the last phase of your life or a childhood friend can also become your best friend. Now an interesting fact mostly childhood friends becomes a good friend rather mostly becomes best friend. It mostly happens due to your and your best friend's mindset. If it matches then bingo you will never loose connection or contact with your best friend. It might not be possible to connect daily but in a corner of your heart you will have some space for your best friend. It's your mind who decides who will be your mind soul. All strong relationships stands on this basic formula if your mind matches with another person's mind then no matter how hard a third person tries to break it will be unsuccessful and will face extreme obstruction. During the phase when you choose your soul mate every one goes to different direction and adopts various ways to find a match like asset, religion, physical appearance, skin colour etc but they misses the main point whether their mindset matches or not. They do not look at the foundation if their mind do not matches then there is no point of moving forward. All the other criteria are useless meaningless rather I should say worthless in front of the mind matching criteria, if it matches go forward and if not stop there and give a fresh start from the scratch. Other criteria can be modified and changed later according but your attitude your mindset and your thought process is something which is very important and very difficult to change. Similarly that's how you make your enemies in the same trend. Do you know the definition of enemy? .... any guesses. For me if someone do not matches your thought process and have an unbearable attitude issue becomes an enemy and if the person is not soft and aggressive then that person has the full potential to harm you. In this cases the best solution is to keep quiet and do not stretch any conversation if it is not going in a positive direction. This is a one shot method which will restrict any uncomfortable situation. Whenever you see that the opponent is not coming to your path rather going to a different path which is more dangerous in terms of conversation or debate on any topic then the best medicine is to keep a step backwards and stop the conversation right there either by changing the topic or changing the mood. Give the opponent some time to think as at that time opponent's mind becomes very aggressive and under no circumstances it allows to mutual the situation rather it will entertain and encourage its path and slowly any conversation will turn into an argument and it will continue further. Now here time will play a major part. You will observe in a T20 match often situation changes after a strategic timeout. Suddenly you will see that the bowling team starts taking wicket or the batting team starts making 10-15 runs in a over. Similarly out here time can change the mind set, if will clear your vision, it will make you understand your vision and will act accordingly. Decision and situation often seen to be changed after a break, the reverse of no effect might also happen but it's chances are less. That is why big leaders love to take some time before taking any major decision as that time which they are taking will be utilised fully to understand and analyse the situation. Any decision which is taken rapidly generally goes wrong and it will be very difficult at that time to recover the situation. 9. Mind builds your confidence... Now confidence is totally dependent on an individual capability. Any one has the jeal will achieve this character and trust me out here also your mind plays a very important part. Did you realise sometimes achieving a target of 250 in an ODI match becomes very critical but sometimes even team chasing can easily achieve a target of more than 300 runs. This difference you will understand more clearly if it is a final specially if it is World Cup final. Now when ever your mind judges that the situation is critical then it started loosing confidence but in that time it's you who needs to motivate your mind to go forward and face the situation. Similarly we have observed that during our childhood days we do not get panic when there is a class test even we have students who scored very well in class tests through out the year get a mere passing marks in final exam. This happens mainly due to the situation which many of us cannot take it lightly. Things becomes very different and difficult when critical time knocks the door. You have to act as a teacher and help your mind to understand the situation and help your mind first to stabilize as an unstabilize mind can land into no where rather it may wash out your mind. That's why during exam students often face black out also in extreme conditions they experience dizziness and faints. Building confidence is an art which someone need to adopt gradually as it will bring success and happiness in your mind. And when your mind is happy and free then in any extreme conditions you will taste success and ones you acquire success in an extreme critical condition then automatically you will build confidence which is very important to carry forward through out your life. It is very important to understand that if your mind stops working then even a small task becomes hard for you to achieve. Similarly overconfidence is a critical illness which anyone should not adopt as it also stops your mind to think further as it comes with a thought process that you know everything and that what makes things worse. Even a simple sum can take a lot of time and that also do not comes with an assurance that the sum is correct or not. In life do not be under confidence nor overconfidence. There is something in between that and every one needs to adopt that for a better future and for a better life as you will not be able to give your 100% if you are not confident enough similarly overconfidence can make you think that you know everything and anything comes infront of you will be easily achieved but honestly in reality that is not the case it's not do easy to achieve anything and everything which comes in front of you. Always analyse your opponent or the challenge or task that comes in front of you and then act accordingly, do not jump on everything thinking that it will be easily achievable as that is a sign of overconfidence and it will land you into danger rather extreme danger where you will think that you will achieve everything but in reality you will fail and you will get nothing. 10. Synopsis.... This a book which consists full of strategy, emotion that our mind plays with us. This book will help you to understand your mind better. You should mental connection with your mind which will help you to understand your mind better. You should treat your mind as your soul mate and should treat accordingly. One thing I learnt as of now that whatever happens never regret in your life, it will make you stop thinking and it will suppress your talent and will become very difficult to overcome. Regret in life brings sorrow in your life. Rather than that think thousand time before taking any decision in your life, but once you took a decision do not think about that decision, you need to be confident enough on yourself. That will bring a arbitrary strength and that strength will come from your mind and ones you generate the same no one can stop you. You should have believe on yourself. You know if you are mentally strong enough then no one can stop you to taste success. Another observation I have encountered that do not acquire jealousy in your mind it restricts your mind and makes your mind numb. Always analyse the obstruction stopping you then take a consultation with your mind and post that you should start work accordingly. Never ever give up in your life, every single sec is a learning phase for a human being. Try to adopt a habbit to learn and learn till the end of your life. Always be happy it will expand your mind and will help you to analyse and understand your surroundings. I hope readers will enjoy reading it and in the same turn they will understand what I am trying to say through this book. Life is very precious live it, enjoy it, stay happy and stay blessed always...............